Anyone else's libido take a big dip down and out? I'm 36 and my guy is 40. We were fine then poof...nothing. Maybe its both of us out of the mood, but i just don't want any of it. I try to get myself in the mood but nothing happens with me. Not even alcohol helps. Hes also lazy. I'm done with the laziness. Maybe we are both depressed. I'm not sure, but even when previously depressed i still had a libido. So, wondering is it 2020 blues, my painful colposcopy back in march (sex life officially died in august), my age, etc.....it's just strange to me. I try to figure it out but i can't land on anything. I feel dead inside. The desire is gone. Even food doesn't make up for it and so i keep over eating too hoping for that happy burst. Ladies, anyone else having the same problems and is in my age group maybe?