I have been with my husband for almost 12 years. We have an age gap of about 9 years, I’m 30. We have a toddler together. Since my initial pregnancy I started noticing anger issues and verbal abuse. Today I have been dealing with emotional and verbal abuse.

He is constantly degrading and bad mouthing me and everything I do. He will speak bad on my friends and family members. He would call them losers bitches ( every name under the sun). There welter few occasions of mild l/moderate physically abuse such as pushing, fingers in face. I have been threatened to be killed etc.

he has always been a drinker and when drunk the behavior increase for the worse. I feel like I cannot be me around him and am constantly walking on eggshells. He will criticize my actions , beliefs, opinions, etc. I believe he is resentful as he has helped my family in difficult times and feels like he hasn’t received in return.

He is loved my friends and always received ravishing reviews and feedback from coworkers and others he has known during his lifetime. However, everything changes behind closed doors. We can have visitors and be will make them laugh and act like all is well. As soon as they leave an argument will begin as he will bring up something he didn’t. Like it bothered him.

I feel like I’m reaching my threshold and am ready to move on and thrive on my own as opposed to someone who constantly puts me down and reminds me of my failures and take credit tor all my successes.

I’m just so unhappy in this marriage with him and he’s is not the father I thought he would be either for a highly educated man with a great career. I expected him to teach our child his native language but he doesn’t after constant request. He also thinks his parenting skills are always best and because I’m not a specialist my approaches are wrong or cannot be trialed.