My mom and dad have been separated for about 5 years now. They still talk now and again. And don’t hate each other. My dad has money and has worked hard for all he has. My dad will still send my mom money each month and will send me some too. He’s an account that he tells my mom is for her when he passes. She knows this. But recently he’s started to change his mind. He hasn’t told her this. But he’s told me. I have told both of them that I want nothing to do with their relationship and love them both dearly. I don’t talk about my mom to my dad and vise versa. So he told me he was changed his will. And I said I don’t want to know anything about it. That way I can say I knew nothing when the time comes. He understood. But he phoned me up and said he needs me to go to the bank with him to sign a couple things. I knew what that meant and he wants me on his accounts. I told him that my mom wants/needs that money. And that I don’t want it. It will only cause problems between me and her. And I have a great relationship with my mom. And money can change people. I don’t want to have those sort of problems. So he said he still has an account just for her but wants me to have my own. He wants to know that me and my son are taken care off.

My issue is, if my mom knows about this she will flip her lid. I know she will no matter what I say. And it’s ok telling me ‘talk to her’ but I know her and she won’t be happy. Technically I will get a lot more than what she will. And it just doesn’t sit right with me. My dad said it’s his money and this is what he wants to do. So I wouldn’t want to break his trust by giving it to her if something happens. I also don’t think I could hide the fact I have it when he does go. Because I feel I would be breaking her trust aswell. What the hell do I do? I feel I’m stuck in the middle. My husband says it’s nothing to do with my mom. Which I understand but it’s still very hard for me. What would you do?