I’m 22 weeks pregnant and have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. This pregnancy has been really hard on my emotions, especially since it’s the pandemic and I lost my job bc of discrimination.

Anyways, my boyfriend and I met when we were really young, he was 19 and I was 17. Him and his family have told me stories about how his ex’s were toxic to him and I’ve seen how crazy a few of them were so I know it’s not lies. He says he dated his ex’s before he got diagnosed with bipolar and got meds/help for it so he knows he wasn’t perfect either.

As for us, We have had communication issues that we worked past but nothing major. He’s always been supportive, loyal, and loving. But lately my pregnancy has me feeling super insecure, jealous, paranoid, etc. (I am talking to my doctor soon) and he’s been depressed so we haven’t been as... connected I guess??

Today, an ex he dated 4 years ago messaged me saying that their relationship was unhealthy because he was toxic and she didn’t think anyone could live like that and that she thought I was pretty but couldn’t have me added on anything bc she couldn’t stand to be reminded of him. This same ex is an ex who would take his car while he was sleeping without his permission and stay out all night. When they broke up, she contacted a girl he was talking to to start trouble. (I’ve seen it)

I told him and he said that he doesn’t really remember or want to talk about it. And that he wants to forget about the past and just be a good person for me and our daughter bc we’re the only girls that matter to him now. And said he plans to propose soon and that these girls didn’t mean shit to him like I do.

It made me paranoid that maybe he was/is toxic to me and I couldn’t/can’t see it. I’m already struggling with him being a little distant bc of the depression 😔