Solidarity or being childish?

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I really need a mature advice.. I'm not sure if I am overreacting and I am quite emotional but in a relationship if you have a problem with someone from outside and you really dislike someone, is it right that your partner to remain neutral instead of keeping your side kinda of things? I might be childish but long ago we were friends with another couple which at first they were my friends for years and then we fell apart. We dislike each other and I get angry when I hear about them. But my partner has no problem with qreeting them if he bumbs into them on the street. We ended up having an argument cause he greeted them and he kept shouting at me that he is neutral that if I had an argument with them it was all me and he's just being polite. I just want to know whats right and wrong in here as I feel so disturbed by the fact that we are arguing about someone I get annoyed to hear about and he doesn't see it..

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Yeah, that’s childish. He’s not wrong for saying hello to someone, even if there was a falling out.

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You're in the wrong and being childish. You having a problem with someone doesn't automatically mean he has to. There obviously has to be some level of solidarity, so like not inviting them to your house or something but there's absolutely nothing wrong with being civil and polite.

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Thats being an adult. He said hello.... he didnt sit up and talk to them or invite them to dinner. You’re overreacting.

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You are wrong. He is just being polite. I’d find that much more attractive than someone who starts shit in public or acts embarrassing or rude.

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I disagree with the other comments.  If someone did something to hurt my SO I would not remain neutral.  I’m not going to play peacekeeper with people who treated him poorly.  I would ignore them. If I were you I’d also be hurt he didn’t have my back.

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You are being childish. It's unhealthy to carry around that kind of resentment. And it's even more unhealthy to demand that he do the same. You owe him an apology.

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Depends on the reason y’all aren’t friends anymore. If it was a dumb argument, then I’d say you are being childish. If the friend brutally attacked you; then I’d say you are in the right

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You are wrong. It’s OK for him to stay neutral if the argument was between you and your friends. However, I think it also really depends on what these people did to offend you. I would like to think that if someone did something truly horrible to me, my partner would not stay friends with them. But just because you dislike someone for personal reasons, is not a good enough reason to expect him to stay away from them. There is nothing wrong with saying hi to someone in the street.￼￼

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You’re wrong. My problem with someone isn’t my husband’s problem. We don’t have to like the same people. We don’t have to be friends with all of the same people. Whether he likes them or not, he’s being a mature person by greeting them.

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I’m gonna speak for my relationship personally ... if I have a problem with someone my husband also has a problem with them. If my husband has a problem with someone I have a problem with them. It’s not childish it’s a respect thing for us. It did take many years for us to understand that but now it saves us. Its like you know your spouse doesn’t like hot dogs you wouldn’t go cook him hot dogs for dinner just because you like hot dogs.... maybe not the best analogy but you get what I’m saying lol. 
I think you have to sit down with each other and have that understanding not an argument but see both sides. You understandhe was just being polite but he should understand it affects you.

Solidarity or being childish?

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