Am I in trouble?

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A man I have been dating for almost 7 months out of nowhere stopped returning my calls and texts. The other night I finally heard from him and He says he's terrified of relationships and that when everything is right he will just know and won't be so confused. Should I take that as he doesn't think I'm the right girl for him? Or should I stick with him and continue our off and on relationship? The problem I have is I know I want to be with him and he's my other half. How do I help him cope with everything or even help him figure out what he needs so I can move on if need be.

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I would say don't waste time with one that's not meant to be. You can't find Mr right while with Mr wrong.

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When my husband and I had been together for I think 3 or 4 months he did the same, he went completely AWOL. He said he didn't know how he felt and needed time to think. 
​I left it and just thought that was it and it was over. About a month or so later he called me out of the blue asif nothing had happened! 
​It wasn't until years later, just before our wedding I actually asked what happened and he said he was confused because he was feeling things but couldn't understand what the feelings were, he said he only knew when his brother finally confronted him about it and they had a heart to heart. 
​Just leave him to do his thing,  men are strange ol' things. He'll either work his issues out or he won't. Weather he's worth the wait is up to you. Good luck x

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I am sorta going through the same thing but kinda not .. We hadn't been dating long when I found out I was preg from a previous relationship ..  We have been together a couple months and then all of a sudden a couple days ago.. He gets all crazy saying he doesn't know if he is ready for all this .. At first I was upset .. But had to face reality .. So I told him if respect his decision .. This seemed to make him feel better and he comes up with this new plan lol  I think he was feeling kinda trapped.. Like me having a kid was going to trap him .. He said he wanted to be involved with me but at a slower pace .. Which I can understand .. His feelings are still there just pretty much wants to slow down .. But I'm still calling it a relationship .. He calls it "being us " lol but we are pretty much as we have been.. I'm sure it's s phase .. Men are just weird sometimes

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I experienced something extremely similar. I'm a single mom with a 3 yr old. My (then 20yr old) bf went through a phase right when we first got serious thinking he needed to "live it up" before settling down. We broke up for all of a week before he begged for me to come back. Sometimes men just don't know what they want even when they think they do. If he's right for you he will come back.

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It's possible he's more scared of how serious you two are going to be and that he wants to take a huge step forward (marriage, etc) but since he hasn't felt that way for someone before, he doesn't know how to handle it. My bf was the same way too when we started dating. His longest relationship was 5 years, but early in those years, he didn't think it would be as serious as he wanted it to be (she left him.) I've known him for over 13 years and when we stepped into dating territory, he was terrified. So was I. He knew I would take care of him and he of me. It took almost a year until we finally made it official. Even now, I get scared of how he's going to be my future husband, father of my kids, us growing old together..it's crazy, but in a good way!! lol 
I think just really have a sit down with him and try and see what he's worried about.

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