Affair

I am 25 weeks pregnant. I first caught my husband on Onlyfans. He used it for months spent thousands. We were working to fix that since it’s just porn. However not even a month later I found out he has been having an affair with a girl states away. (Nothing physical just pictures and videos and talking) it was going on for over a year. I want a divorce but agreed to try marriage counseling first since I am pregnant with our 4th kid.. I recently caught him watching porn again, at least free this time.

My problem is I feel like I’m stalking his every move and getting upset over everything. When I try to talk to him about it he gets defensive and angry.

It doesn’t sound like much but he started gauging his ears again, growing his beard longer, keeps talking about more tattoos and piercings and even changing his music type.

Does it sound like he doesn’t want to even try anymore with our marriage. Is he purposely pushing me away? Is he still cheating??

What do I even do