I am going through a break up with my boyfriend of 3 years. I ended it because he is going through what seems to be a depression and has become mean and irritable. He keeps pushing me away and building walls, he’s been lashing out and me (and his friends). His friends are distancing themselves and I ended out relationship.

We’ve been exclusive for 3 years, and every time I brings up the future he would totally freak out. So I didn’t see a point in staying and suffering knowing I’d get a maybe future relationship (I was unhappy for four months) I ended things because he is becoming toxic towards me (and his friends). I’ve talked this all through with him 4 times. I am becoming upset that I feel like he threw away our relationship just because he is too stubborn to get help (which I’ve tried to get him to do) and I couldn’t do much else.

I’m mad that I had to end things because he didn’t care, and I’m upset that he’s so angry all of the time and lashing out! Things were perfect meare months ago. His own friends are helping me mourn this relationship, not him. I’m so frustrated! I don’t even know what I’m asking for, I guess please let me know if you’ve been in similar situations and if what you did to cope with your frustration and disappointment. Thanks!