My little brother had a sex dream and I feel disgusted what do I do???

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This morning my brother (he is 11!!!!) and he told me he had some kind of nightmare where I went into his room and went on his bed last night. What the FUCK do you do when you are the older sister???? He seems very traumatized from it. I normally bully him a lot and I don’t mean it so maybe I stressed him out. Either way I think his thoughts are very perverted and I really don’t know who to turn to. 
I did go into his room last night but the only thing I did was charge his iPad. So why the FUCK would an 11 year old have some perverted dream. 
Also when he was 8 he was caught watching gay porn and I believe that was a traumatic event for him. Since I outed him out to my parents and his older sister. I feel terrible for it but I thought he was too young. Now I’m afraid I ruined a normal healthy life for him. 
Everything I just talked about absolutely disgusts me. But how do I go about this situation?? Can any of it be fixed. He doesn’t want to see a professional or a therapist. Please help moms and ladies.

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I want to ask something first, why do you bully him and realize that you’re bullying him and possibly stressing him out, but don’t stop bullying him?

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The fact you outed him, is wrong. So wrong. I knew I liked girls before your brother started liking guys. That’s not your business or Information to share. He’s not a “pervert” hes a normal human being who has weird dreams, I had a dream when I was younger I had sex with my mom and my dad. Shit happens 🤷🏼‍♀️ is it weird? Yeah. Do I wanna see that? No. But I wouldn’t push anybody into therapy. Instead take a step back and look at you. Look at your actions. What you are doing to him. Leave him be, let him be gay if he’s gay, let him be straight if he’s straight, let him be whatever he wants to be. He probably got freaked out over that dream himself!

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Stop bullying 11 year olds?

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He can't control his dreams. It's not his fault.

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I mean it's normal for an 11 year old to have dreams like that. They're starting to go through puberty so the hormones will give them... Thoughts. When I was 11 I watched porn and masturbated and had sexual thoughts. That's just how the world is now

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Honestly if you were my sister I’d never trust you ever again. I also wouldn’t want anything to do with you long term. Outing anyone in any way is not ok. It’s not your business not even in the slightest. And technically he isn’t too young to have had at least a small interest in knowing what sex is or seeing porn. 
As human beings you cannot control your dreams at all and the slightest thing can influence your dreams even while you are sleeping. 
Why are you bullying him? Like what’s the actual reason because no doubt it’s fucking with him to a degree.

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Leave him alone. Like....back off and leave him be. Every single time you've had the opportunity to do the right thing and be supportive and helpful you opted to do the opposite. So since you clearly cant help him why not do him a favor and just stay away from him before you mess him up even further?

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First, you need to relax. It was a dream and something he can't help. Dreams don't mean anything and it sure doesn't mean he wants to sleep with you. Second, do better in your life. Stop mistreating your brother especially when you know it's affecting him negatively. Also, you outing him was terrible thing to do and you should be ashamed of that. That was not your business and if you didn't apologize you should. Start trying to be a good sister instead of harassing your brother and getting into his business where you don't belong

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I mean it’s normal to start having dreams like that at his age? And why don’t you at least start with respectfully giving him space and not bullying him?

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His thoughts aren’t perverted, you have weird dreams sometimes and at his age you go through a lot of hormone changes which can attribute to it. “Why the fuck would he have a dream like that” he literally cannot control it? Just let him know you would never do anything like that. If you recognize your bullying him please try to change. And outing him was extremely wrong. You could have spoken to him privately, or you could have told your parents he was watching inappropriate stuff without mentioning that it was gay porn.