We had a one time oopsie that ended up in a second pregnancy - I haven’t even told him yet because when we have talked pregnancy the past 2 weeks he has said things like “I would be happy for you” instead of happy for us. “I want you to be happy.” even though he has made it very clear he doesn’t want anymore children - for the financial and personal time factor but in the same breath said that he will agree to try for a few months “to make me happy”.

I’m really torn because I want this but I get what he means when he talks about the benefits of only having one child and I’m also stressed that he won’t help and I will be doing everything alone. I’m afraid that either of us will resent the other if we go either way and I feel like once I tell him the rest of the pregnancy will feel like doom and gloom and have no joy. I don’t even know how to tell him since last time he cried and it wasn’t happy crying.