To start off : Im posting this here because my husband's reaction to the situation is straining the relationship more than it already was.. All of this came up as a spur of the moment thing because it was a place he had wanted to get for a long time and because he wanted to get away from our old house because there were memories of a bad time as he puts it (that memory being when he was in jail and couldn't come to the house for two months for choking me during an arguement)...

Ok. So my husband's grandmother sold him and me her house, as she is in her 80s and can't afford to keep it up anymore. The stipulation to this was that she gets to keep her room and her dog. I was ok with that... because its a fairly small poodle that doesn't shed much... and I was told that she uses potty pads in grandmothers bathroom only and is strictly forbidden from going anywhere else. It is a beautiful two story in the country so I kind of looked over the problems.. Well, after purchase and moving in, I have since learned otherwise. She pees and poops smack in the middle of the living room and in my bedroom every chance she gets. I can't punish her or my husband's grandmother goes postal, and she refuses to punish the dog herself because there's always an excuse of why she did it, her favorite being 'she wants to make sure people know she's here'. She also tends to bark at you and chase you down if you sit down somewhere and dont tell her before you get up to leave the room because 'she wants you to stay in your seat' and throws a tantrum every time you open the front or back door.. Even more, I can't say anything to grandmother about it because then my husband gets upset at me that I said something negative to his grandmother. She's not allowed to cook, clean, or even clean up after the dog anymore.(mind you his grandmother is perfectly capable of taking care of herself and when it was just her, but that suddenly changed once we moved in...) and my husband won't do any of it either, so its all on me. So I'm stuck taking care of four kids that he doesn't really help with, two are toddlers with slightly special needs tendencies and a newborn, while taking care of a 3k square foot house that must be perfectly clean every day or he gets a stick up his butt, making sure dinner is ready at a certain time every day so his grandmother can have a home-cooked meal to take her pills with, and now cleaning up pee and poop while trying to handle a newborn... it doesn't help that this is the exact reason I absolutely hate animals in the house... I did not sign up for this.. I feel more like free help than a homeowner here and my husband refuses to acknowledge that I might not be able to do it all by myself...