Hi all, just need to vent. I’m currently happily married with my husband and my 6 month old daughter however my family (mum, dad, grandmother) still affect my mental health. My mum always had issues with anxiety and depression as i was growing up. My dad has cheater on my mum many times and she always got back with him. Even from a young age 17-18 years old I remember my mum crying to me about his infedelities but she would never leave him. Our house hold was always a stressful environment. My grandmother (mums mum) also lives with my family and to be honest they all hate eachother and disrespect eachother daily. I still try having a relationship with my family for my daughters sake and they are relatively (normal) towards me, my husband and my daughter.

My mum always calls me with anxiety saying shes had enough of my grandmother and father and that she wishes she could just leave, this causes me so much anxiety and stress all the time knowing my family live such miserable lives. My mums never worked, driven or had any independence and always relied on my dad for finances and getting around. It just makes me feel sad that shes lived this life because i truly do love my mum and wish she had a better life as she always tried to raise me the best she could while living with anxiety and depression.

My question is, how do i live my life without letting my families life and constant problems affect me and my marriage. It seems my family always has issues and i sometimes get dragged into them and when i see them the tension is always around. I have a love hate relationship with my dad due to his infidelities however he has also done a lot for me and my education and pushed me to be independent and work hard.

It seems I’m also forming some anxiety because im always worried about my parents issues. I’m seeing a therapist about this soon but in the mean time i really needed to vent as i sit here crying 😔