Mom told me to drive by my exes house and advised I go to the same school as my crush. Is this weird and should I start to unlearn what I was taught

I’m graduating high school in May and starting community college cause pandemic. So my bf and I broke up last week and my mom told me I should drive by his house. I didn’t. Since there are 4 community colleges near by, my mom told me I should pick the one my crush is going to. Then my mom was telling me stories how her and her friends would drive by their crushes houses to see if they were home or with someone other girl. And that’s when I realized I was raised and believe my worth comes from other people. I never do things for me. I realized that I was never taught to hold my own, move on, and know my worth. Would I wait around for a dude and still get hurt? Yes. Pick the community college my crush is going to with the very high possibility I would never see him, instead of picking a school that’s best for me? I feel like my entire way of being has been highlighted as flawed. Is this a normal way of being/ thinking or is it weird and should I start unlearning what I was to think?