How do you be a Working Mom?!?!

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Ladies I give you props for being working moms because I am so stressed right now. 
It’s not really my kids causing it, it’s my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I currently are living with my family because of losing our jobs during COVID 2020 and we both finally have jobs to give us a chance on moving back out on our own! 
But what’s stressing me out is I’m still doing all the house work and taking care of the kids along with working I mean he will change a diaper or two and wash the dishes some! 
And I know it’s nothing new and a lot of couples go through this but i don’t want to ! I’m not going to be one of those girls that just lets everything fall on her...
How do you ladies keep moving ? And I work 12hr night shifts too sooooo yeah 🥺

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I tell my husband what is too much for me to do and we compromise on who does what.

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Before making irrational decisions you might regret, sit down and talk to him and tell him your feelings. Tell him you need help as you are working as well. Both parents need to be there to help. Let him know you are considering leaving if he can't start to help out more. If he's willing to try, maybe come up with a type of schedule for who does what when.

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I left my ex because he wasn’t doing shit with our daughter (okay, not only for that reason but it’s definitely part of it). 
Now I’m with someone who pulls his weight and I can feel my past trauma from my ex affecting how I view his contributions to the house. He does way more than my ex but sometimes I get on his case which isn’t cool because no one is perfect and he tries so hard to please me. 
It’s total bullshit that we are expected to take care of the kids, the house, the cooking and work a full time job. Total BS.

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When I'm overwhelmed, I communicate with my husband. I tell him it's too much for me and he'll take some pressure away (like taking the baby for the night so I can sleep)
My husband does 10 hr nights (+ commute) and I do 8 hr nights working from home.
Since my shift ends early I usually get up when the baby is up, I sleep an average of 4 to 5 hrs a night. 
When my (schoolgoing) stepkids are here, I go to bed with the baby, he stays up longer to do the kids' school prepping breakfast and getting them there on time, by the time he's back from school runs (they go to 3 seperate schools in different cities) the baby is up, so baby and I get up and leave my husband to sleep as much as possible. (he also gets them from school because I don't have my license, I'm terrified in the car because I had a nasty accident when I was just starting to learn) 
Parenting with 2 working parents is teamwork 🤷🏻‍♀️ it's hard and exhausting.
Imperative with teamwork is good communication.

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My husband and I both work full time. He does the majority of the house work. And childcare is pretty much 50/50 when we’re both home. I wouldn’t be with a man that didn’t help out at home. I find work is like a break, I’m most stressed when I’m home with my boys lol and I’m 22 weeks with our last baby