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Have your 4th and then decide
Would I be crazy to have two more children?
So, I know this is a super personal question, but I’d like some outside viewpoints.
I am currently 33 years old (husband is 35).
We have 3 kids—ages 10, 6, and 6 (6 year olds are twins). I have been pregnant twice.
We have been TTC for almost a year for baby #4. We had every intention of having 3 or 4 kids total, but after the twins we knew we wanted the 4th. I wish we had really tried a lot sooner. I sort of thought it would just happen, but it’s not.
Every pregnancy has taken me at least two years to conceive.
My question is: I will be grateful to have one more baby, but now they are going to be so spaced apart. My youngest are 6!
Would it be silly to try for a 5th a year or so after we have #4? So they have a sibling close in age, or do you think it won’t matter or that 5 children is way too much?
My kids are already 4 years apart in age and it’s not always easy. The twins are definitely easiest because they play together and go through similar milestones.
Love to hear your thoughts. ☺️
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I think this is entirely up to you and only you can know what you can handle and what you want.For me, 3 kids sounds like a nightmare, and 5 sounds like death. 🤷♀️ like yes it sounds crazy to me lol but i know people with 5 and 6 kids who love it.
Ne
Thank you for your honesty 🤣💀 Yes, three kids is definitely hard. It’s chaotic. But we went from having 1 to 3 instantly because of twins, so now that we’ve been though that—I think we can handle anything. I’m just afraid my last child will be left out as he/she will be so far apart in age. But maybe it’s not a big deal.
Of course each family is different but this sounds similar to my family. My parents had 3, then 5 years later had #4, and quickly had a whoops and #5 came along. I’m the oldest and I’m 13 years older than #5. The last 2 are very, very close and I can’t imagine one without the other and I know they can’t either. My mom enjoys her big family, she always wanted a lot of kids, and she did great with us, but after being on the kid side I have no desire to have that many lol I felt like we were a pack of wolves trying to destroy our parents half the time.
Ne
Thank you for sharing this! I’ve definitely noticed a trend with my friends who come from large families...none of them want that many kids. I came from a small family, so maybe that is why a large family speaks to me? Your two youngest siblings sound sweet...two peas in a pod.
You definitely have to do what's right for your family. But if I had the option I would totally try again to have 2 close in age. Our kiddos are all pretty close in age. 19 months, 22 months and 25 months. Our oldest was 5 1/2 when our 4th was born in Nov. It's been great for our family. They are very close and they all help each other with everything. Our 2 yr old loves helping with his baby sister and our oldest asks when we're going to have more 😂 our 4 yr old loves to show his younger brother how to care for the baby. I can't imagine our family any other way. My vote would be to do it because that's how I am. Being a mama is my absolute favorite thing in the entire world.
Ne
Aw, that sounds so perfect! I starting to feel that kids come in pairs—in the future, I want them to have someone. They will always have their older siblings, but I think the relationships will be different with their older sibs than the ones they are super close in age too. I knew a family once that had three kids super close in age—they took a break for like 10 years and then had another 3 super close in age. I always thought that was super neat!
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