Don’t think he finds me attractive

Any time I’m down on myself about the way I look he doesn’t really say much. Only one of our kids look like me and I’ll say poor kid because that was one of my fears was for them to look like me because I don’t think My face is pretty and he knows this. And I don’t even know how I’m with someone that looks like him he’s out of my league. But He just doesn’t say anything at all when I say this stuff. And I know I’m not attractive so i don’t really want him to lie and be like oh no hunny you look pretty. But idk just makes me feel worse. And our sex life is just boring.. like he acts like he wants to but when it comes time to it’s the same thing. I do all the work. I don’t really get off and when I don’t it irritates him. But he doesn’t do anything to get me off.. i just don’t feel like it’s supposed to be like that. And I feel like if I lost weight and tried to look prettier he’d actually put in effort.. idk I guess I just needed to rant.