My boyfriend fantasizes about his ex and other girls??

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So my boyfriend told me he fantasizes about his ex sexually and another girl I know. And Ik there just “thoughts” or whatever but it really bothers me, I asked him if he thought of her while we’re having sex he said not but i can tell when he lies . Am I over reacting or what but I can’t get over this it makes me feel ugly and gross not good enough and not what he wants.Me and his ex are completely Opposite, he’s talked about how she’s the one that got away and everything else but he says he loves me not her and wants me not her but if he wanted me why would he think/dream of her and him having sex ?!?

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Trust if he can get the chance to sleep with her again ... he will. It’s a shame. Red flag

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Probably shouldn’t post what I’m about to comment... but honestly, what low life scum of a male are you with?🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢 Leave his ass girl!!!!! He doesn’t deserve you, you are out of his league. No one should be made felt like they’re not good enough, pretty enough, etc. The fact he told you this, it’s him testing the waters on what you will and won’t allow. Step your foot down and leave because he just gave a whole list of red flags. I would actually be more surprised if he hasn’t been with his ex this whole time on and off.

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I would break up. You don’t deserve to feel that way.

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No, not overreacting. You are clearly hurt from it, so this is not ok. It sounds like something he does purposely. I would be worried too. At this point if he doesn't change this, there will be a lot of problems in the relationship, even worse, cheating. If you can get out now, I suggest you leave. This isn't healthy for you long term.

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My husband and I both say that’s fucked up. It’s time to leave girl!

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Maybe you were a rebound. I’m so sorry to hear that girl. I kno you probably going thru hell right now. If you need someone to talk to, hit me up in my messages.

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My partner said this about me and his ex to HIS AUNT...his aunt 😳 and I didn't have a clue because she never had the decency to tell me until monthssss down the line (and she told me whilst laughing can I add!) 🤦🏻‍♀️ during the time I didn't know he cheated on me with his ex over and over again with his aunts blessing (and several others of his family knew too)...I was made a complete fool of...they had no regard for me or my children...I am telling u now, if a man has the AUDACITY to say he fantasies about his ex sexually then u need to pick up ur belongings and run in the opposite direction cos those feelings he has for her are never going away...that scumbag shouldn't be with u if he wants another woman...do yourself a favour and avoid the heartbreak and betrayal that'll soon follow...if he loved u like he claimed he wouldn't be thinking of his ex, let alone saying such wretched things...the guy u r with is a little boy, not a man...find yourself a man who will love all of u for who you are...but before u do that, take time to find love for yourself...until u fully love yourself you'll keep attracting douches...love yourself wholeheartedly and a true gentleman will fall in your lap honey x

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Nope, he lying, definitely thinks about it when fucking you

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Red flag!! If it’s a fantasy it’ll develop into a stronger desire if it isn’t already, then it’ll turn into action. As hard as it may be to break up trust me it’s better than him betraying you. That’s like a dog dreaming of a bone, eventually once that dog gets a chance to have a bone it’s not going to hesitate. Idk that’s how i see it. It’s easier said than done but you need to think of your own well being first and leave him because it will only grow not disappear.

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No girl, that’s messed up!

My boyfriend fantasizes about his ex and other girls??

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