What should I do???

Ok so I need some advice. I have been married to my wonderful husband for almost 3 years now. We have been together for almost 6 years. He’s wonderful but I can’t stand his family lol. His mom starved my husband when he was a kid and pretty much until he was old enough to make his own money. He had bologna sandwich pretty much everyday. They weren’t poor. Both her and her husband ( my husbands step dad) are nurses so back then making 70k a year each was pretty good. So because of their high income , as a kid my husband didn’t qualify for free lunch in school. His mom spent most of the money on her horses. Fast forward, and he is now making good money. His mom is better maybe because she realized she was a terrible mom. So I’m okay with her for the most part. His older brother is the one I can’t stand the most. He’s selfish and cheap. Eye lives 2 hours away from us and every time we come visit we would have to bring groceries to cook dinner for us and his family. I was fine at first but I put an end to that after so many times. I told my husband we’re not doing that anymore. One year I wanted to throw my husband ( fiancé then ) a surprise bday party Bc he never had a bday party growing up. I texted his older brother asking him and his family to come and I’ll even pay for his hotel stay. I knew my husband would be happy to see them. He replied and said it’s just too far. So that was the end of that. The day before our wedding we had a lot of big items to transport from our hotel room and my parents house to the venue and his older brother was the only one that has a big truck. He never offered to use his truck to help. Actually he never even asked if we needed help throughout our wedding planning. Luckily a friend of mine reached out and offered to let us use his truck. He gave us $65 clock for our wedding from his family of 4. After the wedding , his entire family left and did not help us clean up. My family and friends had to stay. He’s the manager at a Ford dealership and makes about $130k a year so it’s not like he’s broke.he lives up in Midland so his mortgage payment is $450/month. He asked us to lease our cars through him and we did. But we didn’t really get a good deal. I would ok have gotten a better deal elsewhere Bc I could have negotiated. He never comes to visit us unless he’s going to a football or basketball game down by us and he needs a place to stay for the night. Fine, whatever. We just had a baby in July of 2020. It’s been 6 months and he hasn’t visited my son. Instead he kept asking my husband when are we going to come visit him so he can meet our son. I told my husband we have a newborn, we’re not driving 2 hours to visit your brother when he should be the one to come down. His first niece got married august of 2020 and he didn’t attend Bc he went camping with a group of friends instead. I’m telling you this to show you guys how selfish he is. It’s not like he was afraid of covid. He thought it was hoax at first and isn’t careful till this day. Hence he went camping with a big group of friends. Then my car lease through him recently was due and I decided I wanted a Toyota instead of Ford. He got upset that I didn’t renew the lease with him. My husbands lease with his is coming due and I told my husband since your brother didn’t really give us a good deal, we are going to shop around this time. But my husband insist that we go through his brother Bc that’s his brother. I got upset with my husband and said why is your brother all you care about? He doesn’t even care about anyone but himself. My husband knows I don’t like his brother and he gets annoyed every time I bring up his brother. Then his older sister is also selfish. Called the police on my husband one time when he was fresh out of college and was drinking a lot at his house. My husband hated her for a short period of time but I told him to let it go. She never offered to help me with wedding planning. She allowed her son and daughter to bring their significant other to my wedding without asking me first. When they showed up, there were not enough safari chairs for them and it was plated so I didn’t know to order 2 for them. Luckily we had ppl that didn’t show up . So her party

Of 8 adults today and she gave us a check for $100. She’s a lawyer and her husband is an engineer GM so no they’re not poor. Not even close. My family threw me a baby shower and she never came nor did my mother in law. His middle brother is an alcoholic and is always asking my husband for money. He doesn’t work. Just always getting drunk. I’m here asking for advice because I’m letting his family bother me so much when I should just not give a shit about them. And because I can’t stand them, I can’t stand it when my husband calls them everyday. I know , it’s immature of me Bc after all that’s his family. Then I get upset and annoyed and irritable with my husband Bc of his family which is not fair to my husband. I know I shouldn’t let them bother me so much but it’s so hard lol. What should I do? Should I tell my husband how I feel? Should I just try to let them bother me so much? Or am I bitch for bitching about this? Lol. bTw my son is 6 months and the only two people from his family that have visited my son is his mom and sister for few hours. And no not Bc of covid. They live a normal life and don’t really care about Covid.