Boyfriends Family

⚠️Please Give Advice⚠️ I love my boyfriend and we’ve only been together for a year and a half but he’s super closer with my siblings and my family (they are practically his family) but i sometimes can’t stand his mom and brother, i’ve gotten a little better with his mom but sometimes things are just ridiculous to me, so 1 i get all families have different rules/different way they raise their kids but i can’t agree with some of the stuff that happens, so my family is wealthy and for me it isn’t too hard to make money because i’ll just work for my parents for a few days, my boyfriends family is middle class (i’m only mentioning this because it has some part in the story) so he lives an hour away from me and his mom doesn’t really let him drive one of her cars to come over or pick me up so my grandmother died a year before we dated and my parents decided we don’t do anything with my Gma’s car so he can drive it back to his house/when he comes over so nobody has to take us back and forth (btw everything about the car is free he only has to pay for gas my mom will pay the oil change etc) so his brother (who is 15 i believe) has anger issues and anytime we go out i’ll be nice and be like “do u want us to bring you back anything?” if so whenever we bring it back there’s no thank you or anything sometimes he’s even rude like “that took forever” or “i wanted a large” etc so i decided i’m not gonna keep spending my money to be nice when he’s not going to be thankful anyway one time i was there and my boyfriend and him got into an argument and he punched a hole in the door and PUNCHED ME it was on accident he actually meant to hit my boyfriend but he still never apologized it did not hurt but i had a bruise and either way i never think hitting someone is okay and especially not apologizing, his mom will act like (to my boyfriend) “well why do you push him to that” when really either way i think his mom needs to stop saying “go outside to calm down” and actually do something about the issue, she asks us to get him food (which i always have to pay for) and if we don’t she’s like “he won’t have anything to eat” but she’s never worried about if my boyfriend is hungry (even before we started dating) and she yells at him to save money but will take the money out of his account and spend it on something she needs to pay for, *this is the most recent thing* my boyfriend told me she sat him down and said “you need to stop spending as much time with her and spend time with me and your brother” but when he’s home she locks her door and stays in her room or yells at him for small issues and i feel like she doesn’t understand how much money i spend on him and how much i do for him so to me it’s like i think you can spend the weekend with me if i’m giving you a car to drive, a phone to use, and money to get food etc and i feel like she doesn’t give me any credit because before me he was always getting into trouble at school etc and i kind of straightened him out, is there anything i should do about this Or am i in the wrong? please comment and let me know, there’s a lot more i could add but didn’t want to make it super long

Also i forgot to mention that my parents have a second business where they do botox, IV vitamin c therapy, facials etc and offer those things to his mom for free and some of the things are really expensive, any vitamins she needs she can get for free but she talks badly about my mom sometimes to my boyfriend which is something i can never let go