Im currently 18 weeks with my second child. I suffered a miscarriage in August 2020 and with this pregnancy having on/off spotting and potential issues with my placenta, I have not been helping much around the house as I used to (still cook though). My husband said he will take care of it, however the past month he is really starting to be really stressed and bitchy about it. When I ask him to do something (ie, clean washrooms) and he doesnt do it in 1-2 weeks, I will ask/remind him again. But he says I am “nagging” him. He then told me he preferred to be given a list of chores that he needs to do around the house (mind you these are all the things I used to do before becoming pregnant this time), but its been 2 weeks and only 1 thing has been done. I could not stand how our washroom is and eventually decided to clean the counters (not toilet or tub since it requires me to bend over) and when he noticed he asked why didnt i just wait for him.

Today for instance, he came home sounding annoyed at our daughter so i asked him what happened and he said she was crying the whole time on their way home. I said to him shes only 2.5 she cant control it and that he shouldnt be annoyed at her like that. He then goes on and said to me “well youre not the one that is dropping her off and picking her up everyday” (prior to bring pregnant I was the one who picked her up everyday).

He is constantly telling me that he doesnt have time to do this or that because i want him to do so many things and that he is trying to do so many things already and i am not being appreciative. He is constantly being pissed because of this. We did try to resolve the “cleaning the house” issue before by hiring cleaners but with covid cases rising now we stopped.

I am living in a constant state of anxiety everyday because, well, pregnancy after loss is extremely hard. And the spotting does not help either. Now Everytime he is doing this it annoys the shit out of me and makes me feel like its probably best if i wasnt pregnant. I dont even want to be in the same room as him sometimes anymore.

Sorry for the long post but i just wanted somewhere to vent about this. Thanks for reading