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I would contact HR to see your options but I’m not 100% sure if your husband‘s grandmother will count as an immediate family member to you. The thing to be asking about would be FMLA
Should I contact HR?
My husbands grandma isn’t doing very well. Her dementia is getting worse & her health is deteriorating very fast. I called my work as soon as I got the call from my mother-in-law last night to get our butts there ASAP before it’s too late.
I told work I would need at least 4 days, one for driving there (12 hour drive), 2 for visiting & 1 day to drive back. My direct supervisor told me she won’t approve the time off. I said “well not going isn’t a choice so I guess I’m calling out those days” & she told me if I called out I wouldn’t have a job anymore.
Mind you, I have NEVER once called out. If I need time off I always request it at least a month in advance.
I get it, it’s a super inconvenient time but we don’t get to pick when a family member is about to die. I’m not going to have someone make me chose between family & having a job, because it’s an easy choice for me; I’ll pick my family. Jobs are replaceable, family is not.
Is this something I should contact HR about?
Edit to add: grandma isn’t in a living facility. She’s at her own home with a full time caregiver & my husbands uncle lives with her too. Going to visit isn’t going to be an issue other than my work giving me a hard time.
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You can contact HR but some companies have specifics for when certain family members die and how many days you're allowed off. And you agree to it when you sign paperwork to start the job. I also know some jobs have policies to where if you call in for any reason they can fire you.It won't hurt to reach out and see what you can do.
File for Fmla they will give it to you if you’ve been employed there for over 6mos and you’ll be qualified as immediate family needing to care for a terminally ill direct family member then (condolences) when she passes take their bereavement time under their policy, contacting HR will only guide you to FMLA not auto approve the time off. Messed up but not required...your boss is a dick but not required. Do not call out as sick because they can request a doctors note and take attendance action for failure to comply with attendance policy. I’d file for Fmla and contact HR to confirm this is the best suited option and that they won’t allow you to take PTO prior without notice. Also if it doesn’t work out in time before you have to hit the road. I’d make sure that I cc HR and email supervisor that you will not be able to make it into work. I’m sorry for your circumstances and your in my thoughts and prayers.
What was the reason for a no? Are you a tax accountant that has tax season coming up and it’s in your contract that you couldn’t take time off between x dates?Have you not been there long enough? Contact HR and see your options. PTO you shouldn’t have to explain yourself. If it’s fmla or sick time, sometimes there’s rules on what qualifies and an in law might not count, but you would have to see your company’s handbook
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I work in retail lol. No reason given. Direct supervisor told me they wouldn’t approve the time off. So I said “okay, I guess I’m calling out then” & she told me if I did I wouldn’t have a job anymore.
Yes, definitely.I had a similar situation years ago. My manager essentially fired me because I refused to go in when my 6 year old sister was in the PICU, and I asked for the time off and had an excellent track record of being in time and not calling out. When the manager above him learned of the situation, he was reprimanded and reassigned, and they apologized to me, told me to take the time I needed, and my job was there when I was ready to return.
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