Ladies I have some questions and also need to vent a little. I’m so sorry

So I’ve always been anti anal. One time an ex accidentally slipped and ever since it was a absolute no go. But now I’m in a relationship and he expressed his want to do anal. Never pushy about it but I wanted to try new things as well. He’s the first partner that I full heartedly trust and know I’m in safe hands. He’s stuck a finger up there and sometimes “eats my ass” all good and dandy I learned to like it. But the other night we got a little drunk and I decided I wanted to try the butt plugs he bought. After he moved up with all the sizes I said eff it and let him take my butt virginity. It wasn’t awful, he used a ton of lube, but it wasn’t good either? Anyways, when I took the toys out to clean them the next day I was horrified by what I saw. And I’m so embarrassed to say this but there was poop on the butt plugs. This also means that there had to have been poop on his penis which horrifies me more. Gross I know but he didn’t tell me about it and I didn’t think about the possibility of there being poop on the plugs.

So my questions are. A. how can I better prepare for next time so the gross thing doesn’t happen again? and B. how can I make anal more pleasurable for me?

Thanks in advance you beautiful creatures