Hey guys!

So my boyfriend and I have been friends for two years but started dating 3 months ago. Sexually speaking we took things slow because even though it wasn’t the first time for either of us, I personally wanted to build up to it. We had sex for the first time a couple days ago and it was great. In between us getting together and us having sex, we’d do other things like oral etc.

Now, I love giving him head, I always surprise him with it and he loves it too. The first time he went down on me, we were both pretty tipsy and it was really fun, the only reason we didn’t have sex that very night is because we didn’t have protection. However, since then, I’ve had to ask him to go down on me, otherwise he won’t do it. I’ve tried to come up with a few reasons why but only 2 make sense:

1. I didn’t finish the first time he went down on me and he didn’t finish that night either so I think it’s safe to blame the alcohol here. So maybe he got a bit self-conscious about his “skills” and isn’t sure if I like what he’s doing or not? I also haven’t been able to finish the other times either because I know he’s only doing it because I asked him to and that really bothered me so I wasn’t able to enjoy myself. I did fake it tho so in his mind I did finish, so I’m confused as to why he won’t initiate it more often.

2. He just doesn’t like going down on me. This one is kinda sad so I’m hoping I’m wrong here.

If you guys could tell me any other reason as to why this is happening or share any advice on how I could go about raising this concern to him, it will be much appreciated. I don’t really want to discuss this with my friends because that’ll put him in a bad light with them and I don’t want that, so you guys are all I’ve got!

Thank you <3