Trigger warning ** pregnancy loss

Hey guys. This might just be kinda a rant but I feel pretty hurt by the whole thing. I have a friend who is supposed to be my “best friend” who is currently like 13-14 weeks pregnant. I’m super happy for her I know she excited and having a young son myself I remember all the joys of being pregnant with your first baby. That being said I am in no way mad or bitter she is pregnant. I’m mad at how she has treated me the past two weeks.

Last Monday I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant with our second baby. I knew something wasn’t right when I started spotting the same day. I spotted for 5 days and during that time I reached out to this friend and told her I was pregnant now too. I wanted to tell her because she had had spotting and bleeding early on with her baby and I wanted to see if mine was similar to that. I FaceTimed her and showed her my positive test. No smile. No congrats. And I got the vibe she was pissed. She has been very public with her pregnancy (and that’s fine that’s her choice) on Facebook and knowing her I got the feeling she thought I wanted to “steal” her attention she was getting for being pregnant. Which isn’t the case because we planned on not telling people until I had to with our second baby from the time I had my first (everyone drove me crazy with my first pregnancy lol)

Anyway Saturday rolls around and I start bleeding heavy. I knew it was ending and honestly even though I was only 5 weeks and the baby was not planned my heart was breaking as I deleted the “big brother” shirt I was going to get for my son off my wish list on Amazon and as I erased the prenatal appointment date off our calendar. I messaged my friend and told her I was losing the baby. She said “oh no hope everything is ok” and that was it. The next message she sent me was about how bad her morning sickness was that day. I passed the majority of the pregnancy Sunday. I was in a decent amount of pain and had bloodwork to confirm my hcg was dropping. My baby was gone. The next day, Monday, I call my OB to see when I need another blood draw and to cancel my prenatal appointment. Not long after my friend calls me. She wants me to call the OB (we have the same dr) and get her gender results so she can do a surprise gender reveal on Facebook live. She also wants me to get a balloon with the color of the gender. I tell her “nows not a good time for me, you’ll have to have someone else do it” she says “oh ok”. That must have made her mad or something because that night she shares a post on Facebook that says something like “watching other people with their babies when you can’t have one” and above it she write “I got mine! ❤️”

I’m not the type to get triggered by what people choose to post online but to me that was kinda a slap in the face. I unfollowed her on Facebook. I didn’t hear from her until today when she messaged me saying her baby is a boy.

Guess I’m just wanting to know I’m justified in feeling she is a crappy friend. I don’t believe I’m being bitter but I’ll take any feedback y’all have. She has always been the type to need me to do for her and to listen to her problems but the same can never be done for me. One example being when she had her bleeding early in her pregnancy. She called me freaking out and I packed my son into the car, picked her up and drove her to the ER. Now I can’t even get a text asking how I am after I lose my pregnancy. After my early miscarriage I struggled a lot thinking “what was the point? Why did it happen to only get my hopes up or to only be pregnant for a week” now I’m starting to think it happened to show me I need to rethink who I call a friend. Thanks for reading my rant.