Background info: my MIL (mother-in-law) ruined my gender reveal with how she acted and started planning a huge baby shower behind my back for her friends and people my Husband can not stand. Not to mention I have said from the moment I got pregnant I do not want a shower because of multiple reasons. We put a stop to it and told her we are having ONE baby shower so my family could lay off of me and my mother is the head and she is more than welcome to help even though she had sent me to the hospital and has talked mad crap about my family. She insisted all her people to be invited along with my giant family so we decided on a drive by shower so anyone who wanted to come can show up.

Present - I received a text from my SIL (sister-in-law) saying she is throwing me another shower a week prior to my drive by shower. It will be In-Person and she is traveling from a different states to check out venues. I knew this would cause problems with my MIL (mother-in-law) (she isn’t my SIL (sister-in-law) mother) because we already said no to another shower and it wouldn’t be fair for my family to just drive by. The next morning I get a text from my MIL (mother-in-law) saying she doesn’t want to be involved in the big shower. I beg her to stay for my husbands sake and so I wouldn’t have to hear it for the rest of my life that we kicked her out because that was not the case I was just out of town and we were waiting for me to come back before starting everything. Come to find out the SIL (sister-in-law) was coming down to discuss this other baby shower with my MIL (mother-in-law) who I poured all my raw emotions to about having a whole bunch of people around me and focused on me freaked me out so badly I felt as if I couldn’t breathe. My husband and I get on the phone because since I’ve gotten pregnant we have been completely stressed out and we were both on the verge of a breakdown from everything that has led to this point. He suggested ONE virtual shower to have just him and I and we both fell in love with the idea. Long story short I sent a text to the SILs and basically I am told it’s for her brother and I don’t have to show up. Then my husband replies with basically he won’t be going either. She then says that we can show up or not. They are having it. My husband was then cursed out by my FIL. This whole pregnancy has made me never want a child again because of others actions or words. If anyone want to know about what happened in the beginning or at the gender reveal there’s a post somewhere on here. I just don’t know what to do and my husband is so over it that he is ready to not talk to any of them. I truly value my SIL (sister-in-law) and my FIL (father-in-law) so it sucks so badly that they don’t get we are suffering and we have been miserable for months now.