My husband and I have been together for over 6 years, but have only been married since October. Our relationship has been complicated. We worked really well for over 4 years and then he had to move away for a year because of work and it's been hard adjusting to him being back since June 2020. We've been arguing more and he's gotten even more lazy than before he moved.

So more back story, I haven't worked for a while since I was a full time student until March 2020 so he's had to support me for rent and things as I slowly blow through my savings account for our weekly household shopping.

But I literally do everything around our house. I cook, I clean, I go household shopping, I do laundry (which includes folding everything and putting everything away) I take care of our cats (who really demand a lot of love and attention), I make sure our cars are up to date on inspections/registration, I order the cats food and litter online every time it's needed, and I even pick out his clothes for work the next day.

All I ask him to do is for him to go to work and do the cats litter boxes (we have 3 boxes and 2 cats) twice a week.

So, what do I do when he gives me a hard time about doing the litter? He usually only does them once a week at this point.

He just comes home, hops on his laptop to play video games after work Monday through Friday, and then he plays them all weekend.

He thinks him being on his laptop with us having the TV in the background is quality time together.

But I feel neglected and under appreciated. It doesn't feel like we have a relationship at all so I never really want to have sex with him when I don't even feel like we have a relationship.

And at least 3 times a week, he puts me down for not working and why can't I just do everything since I don't have a job and I apparently ask him for so much.

I don't know what to do. I just feel hurt and depressed every single day. I don't feel like I have a husband, I feel like I have a child.

I would work and I did try for a while, but I have to take registry exams to move forward with my career after attending school for over 2 years and I wasn't finding the energy or time to study while working. I have depression also, which I've had since I was a teenager and now am 32, so that having energy much more difficult.

Anyway, sorry for the long post, but I really need some advice on maybe how I can talk to him since apparently me bringing things up is me starting a fight.

Please help.