my boyfriend, of almost 3 years, decided he needed a break right before christmas of 2020. and then between christmas and new years he “broke up with me” over text. we never really followed the break up rules of no sex, kissing, etc so one day i asked what are we. he said we’re still on break, he only called it a “break up” so we would take it more seriously.

well after a month of that bull crap, i started moving on. i was tired of the games. and after a couple weeks of me not showing him the attention he wanted, he decides to get clingy and ask me back out. i told him “i dont know”. i had been dreading that conversation with him so much so i stayed with a friend for almost 2 weeks just to avoid him. in my head the moment i started dreading the moment i’d see him again, that meant i didn’t wanna be with him.

that resulted in us officially breaking up except he’s always wanting attention and another chance. i don’t give it to him because personally i feel he needs to show me he’s changed and happier as an individually before we even talk about getting back together.

well let me get to the point of this story...i have a really good guy friend who’s been helping me through all of this and he asked me out for dinner and movies. it’s been a week since the break up...is it too soon to start putting myself out there? i feel fine, and i like the guy, but my best friend says i should slow down.