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I’m 21 years old and I’ve gone through a lot in my life and it’s made me super depressed. I’ve been living with my boyfriend and he works and pays our rent and bills and I literally stay home all day doing nothing. I do clean and do his laundry the little things I can do. I feel like I’m ready to do something with my life and I need to start helping my boyfriend out. I have no idea where to start though I’ve never worked and don’t know what to do. I also have the worst social anxiety. Any advice ?

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So I've been in that boat with my husband especially while we were dating and I still struggle with anxiety severely but one thing I learned about myself personally is that being social at work is different than being social outside of work. I wanted to be more independent and got depressed sitting around at home while he was out making a living and paying for everything and going to school all at once. I suggest you list what exactly you would be willing to do. So remote at home jobs might work but if you want to get out of the house like I did at the time I suggest starting with a part time position somewhere. If you are dead set on finding a job where you don't have to be social, I personally worked as a ranch hand / animal caretaker for a couple different places where there was literally no communication with anyone but the owner's and the animals. My current job is part-time as a night audit and it has little to no communication with people but even on nights where I do have to communicate it is not that bad because I'm doing it for money not because I'm out socializing I promise there's a difference, for me personally at least. but one of my first jobs was at a bar overnights and though again I struggle with depression and anxiety I still pulled through although I didn't like it almost ever I still did it and it really wasn't that bad since I was making money same with the animal clinic and daytime at a hotel had a lot of socializing. Do some research and maybe download the indeed app or something like that to just look at the jobs around you just as a reference to see what the options are but there are plenty of ways to go about it. Small businesses will probably have less communication and overnight jobs as well tend to be quiet. Good luck with your search! Look into your passions as well!

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Honestly I have social anxiety to and it gets worse for me the more I stay home and don’t talk to people and it’s so easy to do that if you don’t have a job you are expected at.. it’s going to be hard at first but I say go for it even if you just start out a few days a week to begin and nothing to crazy just a simple min wage job to get you out of the house and around people

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