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I’m really needing advice from people who have been there I obviously can’t ask anyone in my circle what to do.

I just found out the man who raped me got off scot free because his attorney said he won’t be making a statement and without that there’s just not enough to bring it to jury. (I expected this as I’m not a lawyer and could’ve worked up a strong case in his defense).

It wasn’t the MOST horrible situation, we were fooling around, I was VERY clear no vaginal sex was to be had, the day before and even before he came over. He was giving me oral, took his own pants off and started pretending to jack off then stood and lifted his shirt I said his name and “no” then “no” again as he moved closer, and pushed my legs against him. He moved them and thrusted inside of me, twice, then asked if he should get a condom. I stood up put my clothes on and he asked if I was mad I said yes I’m really mad that was not ok then my 11mo woke up in the other room so I went to comfort him and the guy and I had an hour long back and forth where I said “I said NO” and he said “I know I know” and I was like “what was confusing?! It wasn’t a playful no! I made it clear!” And he said “after all you’ve been through that was so shitty” my oldest son was conceived through rape. And that was the gist of it. He knew what he did. I took a couple days to report it, had an assault exam done and they’ve been investigating since.

We have mutual friends, and his parents are involved in my parents church, I’m wondering if I should tell the people who still entertain his company so that they can be aware. I don’t think he’s a threat outside or a potential dating situation, I think he truly expected to thrust a few times and change my mind and knows what he did and hopefully never does it again. What would you do? Should I stay quiet or tell those who still spend time with him?