I was talking to my boyfriend the other day and he told me i live for my dad. I was telling him i was considering moving but was unsure and he told me i should so i can start living for myself. at first i disagreed with him but then i thought about it (I’m in my 20s if that’s relevant)

For example i wanted a tattoo of my dogs initials after he died but my dad told me i couldn’t get one so i didn’t get it

My dads really strict Christian bla bla so if he’s ever around when i watch tv i make sure they don’t make any sex jokes or swear or have gay people so he won’t say anything

He told me to get a job and i really didn’t want one but i applied for one anyway bc he told me to

I told him i got drunk when i went to my moms house and he got upset at me saying “i don’t need to be doing that” (mind you I’m 23, it was my first time getting drunk and i was with MY MOM)

He tells me what i should/shouldn’t eat like i told him i ate a quesadilla for dinner and he started going on and on about how that’s “not a meal” and saying i had to make a list of better foods to eat. And if you’re wondering he didn’t “suggest” i do this, he TOLD me to

My boyfriend told me i always tread so lightly around him bc i wanna be the “good child” bc my older siblings smoke and drink and have tattoos and had a baby out of wedlock and stuff like that

Is what I’m doing bad or is there nothing wrong with trying to be good for your parents