I’m not here to debate if porn is okay in a relationship. In mine it is. We don’t talk about it in depth and we have our boundaries (no people we know, onlyfans, paid for personal content etc).

Well tonight I was talking about a couple where the man uses his thumb to cover up women in swimsuits on his phone because they allow no temptation in their relationship (I respect that’s their choice, was just discussing a couple who was the opposite before). I said I’m not sure looking at their face is better than just their body. My husband then brought up no face girl or whatever and commented on how she rides “so amazing.” I’m not that good at riding and I hate the way my body looks postpartum so I avoid being on top although I did for valentines. It just felt like a punch to the stomach after a long day to hear him talk about her like that. I don’t care if he enjoys porn but I don’t want to hear how *amazing* somebody is. I told him that made me insecure and he kind of scoffed it off but I can’t stop thinking about it. I know it’s just postpartum hormone, stress and what not but how do I get the idea out of my head? Again not a debate on porn I don’t mind it but the comment about her to me threw me off. Usually when one of us watches porn we don’t say what or anything. It’s the first time he’s made me insecure about it.