I don’t know if it’s anxieties from the pregnancy but does anyone agree that we don’t need to be married to give our child equal love and care?

I just had a debate with my best frd and she told me marriage isn’t out of love anymore. It’s just formality’s sake, now that I’m pregnant, would be best for both child and I to be married. This is something I have to experience in my lifetime. Do I really? And she mentioned that I should get my head outta my butt if I’m looking to marry out of love. There ain’t such thing no more. What??

It’s not that I don’t want to get married but I don’t see the rush for it, just because I’m pregnant? My partner and I decided to try for one. And marriage was discussed but we didn’t want to rush it.

What prompted this “rush” all of a sudden was because our government is giving all sorts of baby perks to married couples who is with child. Up to $8000 for first baby, extra $3000 in the bank for the baby, 2 weeks paternity leave etc. and all of these are only eligible if you’re married!

Getting married for all the wrong reasons is giving me so much anxiety. Yes, we’ll probably marry eventually when we both are ready but We are not gonna love our child any less if we aren’t legally binded.

It would be great to receive these monetary perks. Definitely helps a lot, so I’m torn, I could use the money but at the same time, I do not want to rush into a marriage.