I love this man so much! He's stuck by me through my worst, helped my family when my dad passed away, we have a beautiful daughter he'd absolutely do anything for! He has the biggest heart! But I'm not attracted to him anymore 😔. In the years we've been together I can say he hasn't brushed his teeth no more than 20 times. His teeth are rotting and he doesn't care. We've had numerous (calm) conversations about it and if he doesn't brush, they're going to fall out. I hate kissing him because of his breath and just the thought of rotting teeth near my mouth is disgusting. He doesn't wash his butt. I've tried telling and showing him how to clean it but he just said the water running down is good enough. I've told him another time "when you wash dishes, running water over it doesn't make it clean, you have to scrub it." He still doesn't care, every once in awhile it'll still smell so bad I've gagged. He is also a mechanic and doesn't care how dirty/smelly he gets. If I don't ask him to take a shower, he won't. Even then it's a struggle, he gets so mad at me when I tell him he smells. He picks his nose at night while sleeping and when he gets up in the morning, all those boogies are all over his pillow. It's just disgusting. Another thing, I know guys don't care about a lot but I feel like a wedding is something they should care about and have some input on. Not him, he couldn't care less. I've tried planning our wedding (which we've put off) and asked him what he wanted and other things and he told me he doesn't care at all what I do, it's all up to me. I know that doesn't sound like a problem to most but I would like our wedding to be an us thing not just me.

Sorry just needed to vent and maybe get some advice.