Brief as I can here

My fiancé and I came home from the store and I was carrying more groceries up the stairs to our apartment than I thought I could handle. Before I could get on the stairs my fiancé just clears his throat and says “Can I go first? You’re just slow.” Those exact words. Idk but it didnt sit right with me

Then inside we were chatting with our friend and as a joke my fiancé asks him “Hey when are you gonna come out as gay?” And the friend says “when are you gonna come out as straight?” As a joke since my fiancé is bisexual and the friend is ehhh who knows. I’m sorry if that’s offensive.... but it’s among friends. Either way, my fiancé then replies to him, “Are you kidding? Do you see the MAN I’m with?” And it wasn’t endearing in any way when he said it.

I ignored it for the moment and had to move a metal frame from an old pull out couch that was sat in the middle of the floor. It was crushing some of my shoes I needed for the snow and I’ve already split my toe on it once. My fiancé asks why I’m moving it, basically saying that it was dumb, so I told him why and he says “You don’t wear any other shoes (besides sandals), why are you making a big deal of it?”

Maybe I’m like overreacting but idk he seems hostile or something. He’s already apologized but I’m just wanting to be alone. It doesn’t help that throughout my entire life I’ve been told I was ugly and was often compared to a man because of my square-ish face. It just kind of brought up those thoughts and I know if I tell him that he’ll just go on about how he thinks I’m beautiful and that he loves me but that’s not really what I want to hear.... I’m not sure what I want, but that feels like slapping a bandaid on and ignoring the bigger issue