I’d like to start by saying in the beginning I had no idea he was married & we never had sex! He’s about 6 years older than me & this happened when i was 18, I know him bc he went to school with my brother and was his friend so I’ve known him since I was younger. Well I am a college athlete so the months leading up to when I left he trained me as his profession is personal training. I saw him every morning during the week. After a few months he got really flirty and I had a little crush on him so we would flirt and sometimes he would get really close to me like he was going to kiss me but he wouldn’t. He would touch me like he was “helping me” with the workouts, which I didn’t mind bc I liked him. He worked for the city I live in so during the day sometimes I would take him lunch and I would sit with him during his lunches. He lives in another town about 20 minutes away so I could hangout with him and no one would be suspicious. Even his coworkers knew about me and he would show me off. He would text me a lot more flirty and sexual than he would be in person. Like he would ask for pictures of me n stuff but I never sent anything nude. Then, I found out from my cousin, who’s older brother is also his best friend, that his wife and him were on a break bc she caught him talking to a younger girl.. WHICH WAS ME. I didn’t say anything but I was in total shock. Then, get this shot, he also details cars n stuff & my dad asked him to come to my house and detail his motorcycle for a show and he brought his wife!!! She was starring at me so much so I just stayed inside. I could only imagine she was probably thinking like wow this is the girl he’s messing with. I kept going to training with him but I kept it distance and kept it professional on my part. Then he started saying things about his wife, never calling her his wife but he would say things like “Jan said..” or Jan did this and that, her name is Jan. I’m thinking he assumed I knew he was married? I didn’t. He stopped texting me for a while I figure bc she caught on but he started again and I told him straight up I didn’t know he was married and I was uncomfortable with what was going on so he stopped texting me but would still flirt in person, not as much but subtle things. Recently, he’s trying to pop back up in my life. We would talk every now and then just about how we were doing but he’s starting to message me everyday. I ended up finding his social media and him and his wife have a fucking baby together now! Like what is his issue. I stopped replying. His wife never reached out to me or anything but im wondering if I should come clean to her. I feel awful and obviously I would have never done this if I knew he was married. I know there was no intimacy between us but there very well could have been if I was willing. However, I don’t want to cause drama and end up in the middle of it.

I don’t want to comment bc I’m embarrassed but thats what I’m afraid of, what if she gets angry with me? Or doesn’t believe he’s contacting me again? I’m also assuming she thinks we’ve been intimate by the messages she previously saw so I’m sure she will think I’m lying but I swear I’ve never even kissed the man. Obviously I took him off everything, I’m asking if it would be wrong or right of me to let his wife know 🙄 she knew about the first time but doesn’t know he’s trying to contact me daily again