Once a cheater, always a cheater?

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I'm ashamed to admit that I have cheated on someone before. More than one person. I knew it was wrong when I did it, but it gave me a twisted kind of thrill. Which I know is horrible, you don't need to tell me that 😔 But now I am with the man I know without a doubt that I am going to marry. I love him the world over, and I would never do anything to hurt him. But I feel like I'm "fighting demons". Fighting for that saying not to be true. I know what I've done in the past is horrible, but I feel haunted by it. I'm not tempted to cheat at all.. But it's just the nagging feeling that "once a cheater, always a cheater", and it's driving me a little crazy.

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I feel if you truly love someone then you wouldn't have the need or urge to cheat. Cheating is an addiction tho and some people can't stop.. But if you can't stop you should try to get help because eventually it will ruin your relationship and if your with the man you love and want to be with forever then I don't think you want that to happen.

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I feel like cheating depends on the relationship and not the person. Any person, whether they've cheated or not, can absolutely find another person that they will never cheat on. In your case, move on from your past. It doesn't matter what you've done, and probably if you hadn't done it, you just might not have ever met this guy you're with now.

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Girllll... I feel ya. I've been with my husband for nearly five years (married for three) but when that old fwb's name pops up on my phone every few months it's a struggle all over again to not start scheming. I have been completely faithful to my husband since day 1, not a single slip-up but sometimes it's a daily struggle. And I don't even know why. My husband is a better human being, he treats me better, he's definitely better in bed... So why it's so tempting is BEYOND me. Hoping once baby (and all future children) is here in March, it'll be easier to be like, hell no. Stay strong and know you'll feel better about yourself in the long run if you DON'T give in. It helps to remind myself that I'm proving something to myself and everyone else that "once a cheater, always a cheater" is not true. And I love proving other people wrong 😉 Good luck!

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Trust your gut

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People can change, especially for those who they truly love and respect. If you value your relationship, you need to seek help from your S/O or a therapist (or both, you know). I believe it is a serious addiction and you need the kind of help other addicts get. 
I wish you all the luck and I hope and pray you can do your best to build your relationship based on trust and keep them strong.

Once a cheater, always a cheater?

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