Hi ladies,

I am almost 4 months postpartum and i started my work just yesterday. My grandmothers sister came to help me and will be with us for the next couple of months. She is close to me since i was bought up by grandma and used to be around her a lot.

From the momey”nt she came, she started doing things her way, saying i bought up 2 kids and 4 grandkids. She is very rough with baby girl, wHen i say gentle, she argues doing this soft will make them weak. I rock her very gently to sleep, she rocks so rough that baby would start crying, when i said baby might develop clots, dr said not to do that, she just laughed and said i bought up 4 kids and everyone turned out fine. She says picking her up is bad when she cries and makes me put her down.

Yesterday, i asked her to give bath for my daughter. Baby girl cried so much that i was scared. I cant take her crying at all, she has already been through a lot with a inguinal hernia surgery at 6 weeks. Now i regret my decision a lot that i am so down since yesterday. Through out night all i could think was the red face of my daughter screaming and crying while having bath.

I dont like leaving my daughter alone in bed or anywhere. She insits i leave baby with her in her room and she would leave baby on bed and go to kitchen and bathroom.

I know i must be greatful for getting the help especially in these covid times but i feel like i am not giving my baby the best and putting her through so much pain. To be honest i am depressed. I dont know what to do or how to tell her to be gentle with my baby girl. I tried to tell her, but couldnt convince her. I feel lost, hubby says its ok, she knows better and baby is big now and it is better than daycare or nanny where they have zero emotional connection.

What do you guys suggest 😔😞😒😢🥺

Update: i used my husband to convince her. He yelled at me when baby cried in bath and she got little intimated by that. So she started being gentle with my baby girl. Things are sailing smooth now.