Drs overlooked my miscarriage- need advice
Hi ladies. I really am here just sharing my story and needing some advice, please read until the end because this will be a long one.
In September of 2020 my boyfriend and decided to start trying for a baby. We weren’t <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android">tracking ovulation</a> or peak times, just kind of having fun with it. I want to start by saying I have had the most regular and routine period since my very first one when I was 13 (I am now 20), and I’ve always started on a Friday night or Sunday morning. I have always had awful period cramps but nothing a few midol and heating pad can’t fix.
October 7th is a day I will never forget. Leading up that day; my period was 9-10 days late, the smells of food and cleaners were making me nauseous, I was extremely tired, and even my coworker told me she thought I was pregnant. On that Wednesday morning I woke up at 2-3 am to EXCRUCIATING back pain and back cramps, which have never happened to me. I ran to that bathroom where I passed a lot of clots. I was also so light headed I passed out on the toilet. About an hour later I go back to bed. I wake up for work the next morning, I worked in a classroom with 1.5 year olds (so much fun). I get to work and I felt like absolute dog sh*t and apparently looked it because another coworker told me so lol. I was so sick to my stomach and couldn’t stay off the toilet because when it wasn’t coming out one end it was coming out of the other. I was having awful cramps and my whole body hurt. A few hours pass and my boss tells me to go see an OBGYN. My boyfriend picks me up and takes me to an ER an hour away where there is supposed to be a rotating OB.
I get to the hospital and at this point every single person prior who I have explained what is going on has told me I’m having a miscarriage, including the nurse. I get to the room and get into a gown and give a urine sample while waiting on the dr. They were very packed with potential COVID cases so it took a while for her to get to me, no big deal I have patience. She comes in and looks at me and my boyfriend and asks what’s going on and I explain everything in detail. She says to me, “you’re just having and menstrual cramps. I am just going to give you a shot of pain meds”. At this point I am very clueless and kind of have the mindset, well you are the dr so you just know what you’re doing. She gives me a shot of torridol and I go home. Doesn’t run a pregnancy test or feel my stomach or anything.
The next few days I start to feel better, just very tired and minimal bleeding. My boss makes me go get blood work done on Friday just to see if it was a miscarriage. I go and get some blood drawn and they call me a few hours later to tell me that I need to go back Monday because they mixed up my blood with someone else’s. Great. I never went back to them but went to my regular dr instead to just kind of catch her up to speed on things and I was also passing out every single day of a morning since then. She told me she thinks it was a miscarriage but as this point there is no way to tell because it’s been too long.
The next few months my periods were absolutely awful. Painful, heavy, just plain out awful. I go see an OBGYN for the first time and she listens to everything I told her and then just says okay well let’s go on birth control. I was like uhhh why? I’m trying for a baby. The blood work I had done a week prior to seeing her showed that my FSH and LH were very high and the only way to level them back out were to get on birth control and it would help with my periods. Again, I have the mindset well she must know what she’s talking about she is an OBGYN. So a few weeks pass before I can get into my local health department to receive free birth control. (Throughout all of this mess I lost my job due to missing too many days). So I get there and I have to be seen by a midwife just to make sure I’m healthy and can pass the health exam. We get to talking about everything that’s happened and she asks me what my blood type is. Instantly I knew where she was going with this. I am the A blood type that you have to get the shot for at 28 weeks and again once the baby was born. But because I never received that shot after my miscarriage I am high risk because basically my body will try to reject my next pregnancy until I can carry to 28 weeks to get the shot. I am devastated and I am scared.
Here we are 3 weeks into the birth control and I am so tired I can barely stay awake throughout the day even with 8 hours of sleep and a pot of coffee. I noticed last week I was having some thick yellowish white discharge (sorry tmi), I’ve been extremely tired, I am constantly burping, last week I was having some random back cramps for a few days, my mood swings are crazy- like from happy to crying to anger, I go from not eating hardly anything to never getting full, and these last few days I’ve noticed my boobs hurt so bad and my nipples are very sensitive. Is this from the birth control?? The only time I’ve experienced half of this stuff was when I was pregnant. I don’t want to get my hopes up or even experience that negative test once again, so I just want some other ladies opinions.
Feel free to ask me any questions, and if you have any advice or kind worlds that would be much appreciated as well.
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