dating a man that does not like to clean up

my boyfriend is the definition of trifling!! he doesn’t do laundry he doesn’t pick up behind his self... i discussed this with his mom and she said that’s because he’s used to her cleaning up behind him, folding all of his laundry and making sure everything in his room was clean EVERYDAY! well i’m not his mother obviously and this is the first time he hasn’t lived with her in his whole 24 years of living ... how in the hell do i undo 24 years of this? he offered to wash dishes and stuff but he washes dishes with just water🤦🏿‍♀️ no soap or nothing