Help...

So my husband had a month-long affair (they had spontaneous sex twice, but no emotional relationship other than typical texting) from beginning of November to the beginning of December. 😞 I know that would be a dealbreaker for most of you - I thought it would’ve been for me too. But we’ve been in counseling and are working on our relationship. I am obviously extremely hurt, but I chose to forgive him because he is working hard to prove himself now. I told him I suspected it, and he tearfully confessed when I gave him an ultimatum. We’ve been better than ever.

To the point now...

This weekend, he is going skydiving with friends. It’s not feasible for me to go with our two boys (2 and 7 months). His plan is to stay at an air bnb with his 9 male and female friends, but they will be bringing booze, and his affair involved alcohol. Actually, she was a bartender. So it’s a very sensitive spot for me. He says he won’t drink when I’m not there if I don’t want him to, but I can’t prove that. I can’t trust him not to get drunk, and I don’t trust him when he’s drunk. What should I do?