I have a partner who is the most amazing person and boyfriend I could ever ask for, words cannot describe how amazing he is.

I’ve known him 7 years and we’ve been friends that whole time, 2months now being in a relationship. I have 1 child from previous and he has no children, we recently had a miscarriage

When something or someone triggers him he has moments were he thinks he can’t be in the relationship, but he’s told me he’s still here so that’s a good thing. He sometimes has the feeling in running which I understand cos this was once me. We recently had a miscarriage which has been surprisingly well, due to the support we both give each other & the communication about things are on top form. Couple days ago we had a small blip (argument) which has then resorted to him breaking up with me, blocked me on everything & sent all my things back that was at his place to me by post.

In the very beginning he told me he’s healing n he wants me to be gentle with him, which I was always going to do that with him, he was always up n down so I did a selfless act by saying you sort whatever it is you need to sort without me being in the back of your head n when you are ready we can pick things back up again, basically come find me next year. He didn’t take that very well, it wasn’t something he wanted.

He has told me he has rejection & abandonment issues (I have something very similar) I just don’t allow it to take over me as I was in a deep dark place. He asked me for patience which I have given him. Right now I don’t know what to do, I’m not wanting to leave because I love him dearly, but I know that he needs to heal n sort out what it is he needs to, I can’t do that for him. Only he can do that. I know that trying to heal & being in a relationship doesn’t work well. I cannot fault him as a partner he’s amazing, it’s just the traumas n triggers cause a break down and break up. I have a child who is 4 that is also in this and isn’t fair on her that there’s inconsistency. I’m just needing a little advice on what’s best for me to do in this situation as this is the first time being with some who has BPD