LONG ASS STORY , NEED ADVICE! Situationship or fuck buddies ?

Hey Mamas

I need some advice! So it a long story but basically I’ve been separated from my husband since January of last year . I gave birth to my second child a few weeks later in February( that’s a whole other story in itself ) All new to me being a single mom and figuring my dating life out . Fast forward to October I thought I had met the man of my dreams , I mean he swept me off my feet he was absolutely perfect ! He asked me to be his girlfriend and I was more than excited to accept his offer.

A few weeks after he asked me to be his girlfriend his work schedule got crazy because of the holiday season , we barely spoke on the phone or saw eachother. I’d see him once a week maybe and he’d always make an effort to call me when he got off work sometimes 3am. Fast forward to Christmas , I was a little upset because he was an hour away at his sister house so I had no plans to see him but then he asked me to come see him so I drove and hour to go see him and I was elated because when is the last time we spent time together? I ended up sleeping over but I had to go home to greet my kids so I left the next morning.

When I got home I didn’t hear from him unless I hit him first the whole time he was at his sisters, I felt like since you have to time to talk to me you should be more than excited to but also I understand this was his first day off since thanksgiving. I mentioned it to him that it bothered me ( & he told me I could always tell him anything so I felt free to do so) . Shit went left . He said he didn’t think were compatible blah blah blah ( but saying I was the best thing that happened to him and he wants this and that with me ) then the nigga started coming for me and I was just like trying to fizzle it out but at the same time checking him cuz you’re not bout to come at me crazy . He went to work so he stopped responded . This was three days after Christmas I believe.

I sent him a text stating my frustration with our argument and we need to talk in person , he told me to come get my shit because I wrote a vague tweet that was obviously about him but I didn’t mention him or say it was about him. If y’all knew all he said it was warranted in my opinion. I also took his name out my bio because I told him I’m not putting out anything I’m not getting back . He took that as we broke up . I guess .

I’m 25 and he’s 32 btw. He has a really hard time communicating and expressing himself to the fullest and I’m completely opposite.So I went to get my things , he gets in my car at like 12am . We’re taking , we’re telling , I’m crying , then silence for a sold hour. He said he had nothing to say to me but continued to sit at this point I’m confused . I’m crying to myself . He gets out my car at almost 4am and tells me to go home and TAKES MY THINGS BACK . Then proceeds to hug me , give me gas money and FaceTime me till I got home .

We talked for a few days, he’d even text me when he got home from work at 1am/2am. New Years came and went he completely ignored me. I text him like are we still together? He said “obviously not, I haven’t said I love you or called you babe “ . Clearly it’s not that obvious or I wouldn’t be asking . So on Jan 4th we officially broke up and I picked up my things, he didn’t say anything to me and walked off .

I did something I never do. I slept with someone else that same day , I cried about it for two weeks . I felt so gross , I was crying during the sex y’all !

9 days later my ex hits me up saying , “ you left a tapawear at my house do you want it” . I drove at midnight to go get the stupid tupawear just so I could see him . He sat in my car and we smoked and talked for a couple hours. I had to use the bathroom so I went upstairs, I wasn’t anticipating anything happening so I waited for him to walk me out . We get to my car and I was about to drive off then I asked him for a hug , I swear to god that man ran to my car lol we hugged a good 5 min. He kept staring at me . I told him to just do it I knew he wanted to kiss me , we made out for an hour . Shit got hot lol I had to go cuz at this point it’s 3am .

Fast forward to March 2021 , we are “fuck buddies “ as he calls it . We started sleeping together again in mid January around his birthday. We’ve had countless sleep overs , I have a toothbrush, panties , sex toys , body wash , feminine wash and a Loofa at his house . He takes me to dinner, buys me lunch and makes me home made breakfast . We do yoga and go on hikes . We go to to the laundrymat at 1am together , he fills my gas tank up sends

me money . He would kiss my forehead I had to tell him to stop, he still hold my hand and kisses my cheek . I’ll catch him staring at me while Im sleep. But we are “just fucking “ .

I had a talk with him about this before , I told him how he offended me and how I don’t like certain shit , he apologized. We talked for two hours and essentially we’re ending things I ended up at his house getting my back blown out . Then slept over that night and the next .

So today we were taking having a normal conversation and I asked him a question he responds “ hey Im kinda busy & I don’t wanna get into this right now . Can we talk about this later ?” But hopped on Twitter right after .

His famous lines . Which is why we got into our last argument and i ended up at house .

I hate that everything is on HIS TERMS , HIS TIME , No compromise . I hate repeating Myself. I’m getting mentally exhausted with this man calling me a fuck buddy but leaving hickies all over my body . Treating me like I am a second thought. But when he wants something he expects me to jump.

What do I even call this ? A entanglement of sorts ? A situationship? Lol we weren’t even broken up two weeks and you’re holding my hand and kissing my forehead calling me babe . But I’m tripping for thinking we’re not fuck buddies .

When we broke up we both said we need to get our lives together before we get into a relationship, but what’s confusing is isn’t that what this is ?

I’m confused as hell right now . Idk what to do . Do I confront him? Do I leave it alone ?

My last relationship was with my husband who me I met when I was 17! Been with him and only him till January then I started dating again in May of last year , and I met my fair share of men ... but none of them were like him . Or WHO I thought he was . He was PERFECT. Now he’s comfortable. It’s so much more to it but I’d be writing a book at that point .

I need advice from people who’ve been through this . Have more relationship experience. Or just have something to say .

In my opinion he doesn’t know what he wants but he definitely doesn’t want me going anywhere. So he doing all he can to keep me around & because I tolerate it so he keeps doing it .

Please no negative comments.