So my ex was abusive and I had to call the police on him several times (he would basically stalk me trying to get back together). The police told me not to file a restraining order until I had more solid reason that he was a danger. (Which I think is stupid but ok).

Anyways, this was over a year ago. I have not heard from him in almost a year. I am hoping he is over me by now. But when we where together, he always sent flowers on my birthday, ( his attempt at making up for the manipulation). He sent them last year as well regardless of the fact that we where broken up and I have not contacted him at all since the breakup. Last year when he sent flowers, I informed the police, they said they would make a “report” but urged Me if I wanted a restraining order issued I would need more than that.

So tomorrow is my birthday. I currently work from home, so if I do get flowers at my door tomorrow I am going to inform the flower company to take the flowers back and to refuse any flowers sent to my address in the future. (I hope that works?) I am also going to call the police one more time about it so I guess they can make another “report”.

I know it seems like a lot for just some flowers, but this man threatened to kill me and my family, and raped me when we where together. It may seem excessive but there is nothing in this world I won’t pull to get away from him.

Does anyone else have any tips so he can’t send flowers? There is no way to refuse them beforehand without a restraining order is there?