What do you do when you are tired of being a mom ?

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I feel horrible writing this. But every now and then I get so sick of being a mom. It takes so much! You have tiny strangers who want your attention 24/7, you get now time to yourself, you are lucky if you ever get to go out of the house alone. I try to take little pockets of peace for myself but lately it has just feeling like it’s not enough. I end up staying awake until 3 or 4 am just to enjoy the silence. I have pretty much given up breast feeding my youngest so feel even more like a failure. The self torment is never ending. Do any other mothers feel like this or am I just self centered?...

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I would agree that being a mom is difficult, especially during covid and it can be draining but I would never call my kids little strangers or say the self torment is never ending. It sounds like maybe you’re experiencing some depression? Never having breaks is hard and self care is important and needed so try to make that happen somehow. Or go back to work, or talk to your doctor. You don’t sound self centered, but you do sound unhappy. I hope you’re able to get on the track to happier days, however that looks for you! Remember that this phase of life is not very long. The days can feel long but the years are short.

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It's is perfectly normal and doesn't make you a bad mother or failure at all at times mother hood can get over whelming and can be extremely draining in many ways more then one bits it's important to take time for yourself and relax and let go any negative that may be a weight on you . Your not at all bad for needing a breather or quiet time  as you need to be your best mentally, emotionally and physically to be your best for your children . You questioning this in the first place showes your a great mother as your thinking and putting your children first wanting to be and do better for them .

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I just take a break either by myself or with my husband.  I hated being a sahm so much I went back to school too. You’re not a failure for needing breaks.

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Ladies u MAKE time for urself. U know your kids better than anyone. Don’t they take naps? That’s your time? Don’t they go over family house? That’s your time. Take any little or big moment u can. My kids have aunts n uncles. Sometimes they want to spend time with them sometimes a couple days( a weekend). I ENJOY EVERY MOMENT of being free. When they go to bed at night man the house is all mine. Sometimes that’s when I eat cuz I don’t get my food to myself. If it’s mine it’s my kids. As far as going out ask hubby or nanny to watch the kids just so u can get a couple hours to yourself. Ladies don’t feel bad don’t your kids get a break from u when they go to school/daycare? Or when they want to hang or play with there friends? They is a light just think n stay positive.

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I get tired of cleaning and being a wife but I never get tired of being a mom 🤷🏼‍♀️ I love being a Mommy .  Try to talk to someone 
, it might be depression⚠️

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You are not a bad mother for giving up breast feeding. Your mental health comes first in order for you to be well enough to take care of your children. You are an excellent mother. Do not riddle yourself with guilt from wanting some time off from your kids - you are doing a great job and deserve some time off to feel yourself again! Your kids will love you no matter what.

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Its not self centered.  Even as mothers we need time for ourself.  Talk to friends and family see about unloading on them.  All you have to do is ask for help.  Talk to someone maybe even get a therapist to help you coould also be going through post partum.  Yes post partum can last up to a year after birth.  But talk to some one.  Discuss a plan to get away for the night.  Either enlist a friend or family member to take the kids for the weekend just so you can enjoy yourself.  Just because you had kids doesnt mean you need to be around them 24/7.  Lots of mothers feel this way.  You are not alone.  And you would never be asking this if you were the father so maybe even enlist him and tell him you need a day alone.  Go out with friends or go for a walk by yourself.  Always schedule an hour for you time.  And dont let this be to where you have to loose sleep to do so.

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I just take a nap lol or make my kids lay down for a movie and we all chill together

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I think it’s normal to feel like this sometimes. Children are exhausting and demanding. Under normal circumstances I leave the kids with daddy and go out by myself every so often. I’ll buy myself a drink I don’t have to share, and browse some thrift stores (my favorite!) Or take myself out for a treat. Since were in lockdown right now options are limited but I try to go for walks by myself, have hot baths after they’re in bed, ask my husband to take them out for a drive, things like that. No shame in asking for a little alone time to recharge

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I went back to work to get a break and have a different role than “mom.” And my husband will take point if i ask for some time. 
No point getting down on yourself—feel what you feel then let it go and move on. The only one judging you is you. 
My mom formula fed me and bf my sister—we’re both successful, college educated with comparable salaries. Only difference is i have pollen allergies. So i take some zyrtec and am fine.

What do you do when you are tired of being a mom ?

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