What Should I Do?

My bf & I have been going through a lot, since quarantined started. We almost broke up last November, because we’ve been getting into a lot of petty arguments & a lot has had to do with our communication (really on my end). When we started to work things out, it was going okay, but we weren’t having sex, and that’s only because I wanted I wanted to work on my communication. I didn’t want feel like sex was going to fix everything, without us working on our issues.

It’s now been 5 months since the last time we had sex, and my bf said now the absence of sex is turning into anger for him. I can somewhat agree. I’m feeling terrible now though because I feel like he doesn’t see the effort I’m putting in to fixing my communication issues. I’m trying my hardest & I feel like he doesn’t see. His bday just pasted & I was going to surprise him with a romantic night this weekend.

However, we just got into another argument because he said that I haven’t called him through the day all week (I had to work at night this week), and he’s upset that he has to wait until late at night to speak with me. I try to tell him, the only reason why i don’t call him during the day is because I don’t want to risk getting him into any trouble at work. So, once again we’re back at the same argument, and I feel once I do one thing wrong, it wipes away all the progress I’ve made. I also feel like he’s not even excited about the romantic weekend I had planned.

What should I do to get him to understand that I’m constantly trying to make things better? I love him, and I hate that this past year has gotten us to this point, but how can I make our relationship progress?