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Just keep ignoring the negative comments. We went through 3 years of infertility issues and finally got our little guy through a FET. And yes, you have the late nights and the exhaustion etc but that little face is soooo worth everything. I had severe postpartum depression but even then, I NEVER didn’t appreciate how precious of a gift he was and it was never a “chore” or “annoying” having to get up with him. He didn’t sleep through the night until he was 10 months but I never felt like he wasn’t the best thing that ever happened to me. He’s 3.5 now and he is still everything 🤷🏻♀️. Just ignore all the negativity if you can.
IVF Pregnancy 37.5 weeks... thoughts
All my circle of friends and family that I know have gotten pregnant naturally.
I’ve gone through 1.5 years of trying naturally, 5 failed IUIs, 3 surgeries, and 1 IVF procedure (that ended up me in the ER..) but, despite it all, our FET worked! We are currently 37.5 weeks pregnant and waiting to see when the baby decides it wants to come to this world. Took close to 4 years to achieve this 1st pregnancy.
All these circle of female friends and family are warning me about late nights, sleep deprivation, feeding problems, healing problems. But I can’t help but not be able to connect with them. You see, I didn’t even think I can become pregnant, yet alone a mother. I feel I still can’t believe I am going to have a baby. And that this baby is a miracle and is a blessing to my husband and I. I don’t feel the negative warnings, and the this and that’s. All I keep thinking is, I can’t believe I’m going to be given the chance to be a mom.
I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety and have been seeking professional help along the way of my infertility journey. So I know I’m in the right mindset for all of this.
I just feel blessed to be able to even be given the opportunity to become a mom. Does anyone who went through infertility feel like this too?
Because when my circle of friends and family speak about that stuff, I feel very different than what they are saying. And I think it’s because of my perspective through my rough infertility journey.
Just thought I should share.
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I’m feeling just like you! We had a long and medically traumatic journey but we are finally here, 33 weeks. Friends have gone the “warning” approach, at first it really affected me. Now, I just feel sorry for them that it’s all they can think of saying to am expecting mother. I generally have 1 of two responses (1) polite fake smile with minimal verbal response so they get the hint that I’m not into that conversation or (2) extra cheesy positive statement about how happy we are to have a healthy pregnancy and to become parents. People honestly have no clue about infertility, and it’s not my job to teach them.
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LaBori, your whole response was great, but the last sentence is so perfectly what I feel. 💚
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I am the same way, just don’t expect them to know unless you’ve been through infertility.
I don’t think they mean to be negative. I’m an IVF mom and I took that information more like advice. I still get exhausted sometimes, especially in the first few months while we formed our routine, but I survived just like you will. Motherhood can be tough, but it’s so incredibly rewarding. I think it’s just human nature to talk about things that were difficult.
If you can, try not to take the warnings as negativity. New motherhood can be overwhelming and it's easy to feel guilty, especially when you've struggled and waited so long. I know a lot of new mothers who felt almost betrayed, like "no one told me about this!" The women sharing these stories might be trying, however clumsily, to say, "I am one of the people you can talk to without judgment if you need to."
My ivf miracle will be 15 months next week. Every day I hold him and smile and think I can’t believe you’re mine.But I’m going to be honest, going into ivf after not getting pregnant at all, not a once thinking twins would be cool, I now laugh at myself for even inquiring about transferring more than one embryo. My son is the cutest, I’m biased I know, but he can be exhausting. After him being born + Covid had been tough on our marriage. But we are figuring it out. And crazy enough to be doing another transfer in a few months for baby #2.You will figure it out though! Congrats ❤️ thank goodness for the power of science
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