I’m 43 and still a Virgin. I decided to save myself till marriage and spent most of my younger years taking care of my mom and grandma until they passed (they were both sick). I’ve been longing for a relationship and to get married but I can’t find anyone. Literally nobody wanting a relationship comes my way. Not even on dating sites. And so I don’t want to seem desperate but at this point I am really feeling lonely and I’ve always wanted a family/kids. I don’t think it will ever happen for me. I’m only getting older and I don’t think I will be able to have kids at my age even if I do find a man. 🥺😭

Edit: I try putting myself out there and I am a very friendly person who can make conversation with anyone. I am opened to all ethnicities. I live in a small city that’s more like a country town. I work as a medical Office Assistant and there are only women where I work except for some of the doctors who are all married. I am a plus sized woman but I’m sort of tall so it doesn’t look bad on me. I take really good care of myself, I’m clean and have a good sense of fashion. I’m highly energetic, funny and somewhat of a nerd and I love social events and attend every one that I can. I have lots of friends. I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong. Yes, there have been some men who approached me, few in person but most online BUT they made it clear to me that they only wanted to have sex and not be in a relationship. 🥺

UPDATE: For those asking, I didn’t focus on a man 20 or so years ago because after college, I moved straight back home because that’s when my mother got very sick so I looked after her for the rest of her years on earth and then shortly after my grandmother got sick so I devoted my time and focus on her. We all lived together. After she passed it’s like I realized that I missed so much like life just passed me by. Maybe I should have been a little selfish and had more “me time”. Also, in college there were a few guys, one I even dated but it didn’t go far because he always tried to pressure me into having sex and I wasn’t ready.

My friends helped me to create some dating profiles. One was Tinder, another was plenty of fish, I forgot the other ones but they ALL just went straight for the sex talk, ugh!! I think I might have to download a dating app that you have to pay for, maybe that will help narrow down to some serious guys? & yes I even thought about finding someone at my church and I even visit my friend’s church often and the congregation is filled with elderly people. I don’t know where all the youth are. 🙃