Should I say something???

Question

Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. We met through mutual friends at a party. Before I met him though, I was already friends with his friends for a good amount of time. One of these guys is his best friend from high school and still one of his best friends to this day. 
While my current boyfriend and I were still just "talking", his friend and I had some stuff happen. He came on to me one night  down by a creek and it was everything BUT sex (we were both a little drunk) but I stopped it and told him we should go since we both had a friends party to go to. Then about 2 months before my boyfriend and I made it official we did the dirty :/  I had to stop over to get a bottle of liquor that I left at his place since we all had a get together the weekend prior. It wasn't that I wanted it to happen (because I already felt horrible about myself from the creek incident) but it happened very quick and I still remember going home and balling my eyes out because I couldnt believe I just did that with a guy I likes best friends. 
I told my boyfriend about the creek incident and he said he isn't that upset because it was before we were dating and evem official. But should I tell him about the other incident too?
This same friend slept with one of my boyfriemds girlfriends so I feel like he will hate me if I tell him tha happened. I want to be honest with him but I also don't want it to cause a fight with us. 
If it was before we were dating should I even bother? I am not the type of girl to sleep with any guy so I don't know why this happened or why I gave in so easy to him. Should I just keep it to myself since his best friend now has a girlfriend? I don't want to ruin their friendship that has been going strong for 12+ years after high school

This has been eating me away and I need some advice....please no rude comments. Just need some help in an awkward situation.

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You're obviously feeling guilty about it. Only you can decide if you want to tell him or not though. If he ends up being the one you decide to spend the rest of your life with are you going to be able to keep it in forever? What would happen on the off chance that your boyfriend and his friend get in an argument and he tells your boyfriend that he slept with you? Would your boyfriend be mad that he found out that way? May as well lay everything out on the table and see where it takes you. Realistically you should have just told him everything in the beginning so he would have had the chance to make up his mind about you.

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Anything done in the darkness will soon come out in the light. Better to tell him now and just have the argument ...

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Leave it in the past and have a happy life together ☺️ like you say you weren't together stop feeling so guilty ☺️

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I think you should leave it alone. He knows you've messed with him already. He may get upset that you didn't tell him everything at first. Just leave it. It was before you were actually together so I would just keep it as is.

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Just leave it in the past. If that's his best friend he already knows. If no one is making a big thing about it then you shouldn't either. You should also not feel so guilty! It was before y'all were dating and the golden rule of relationships is why should you care how many or who your SO was with before you. Epically if they're clean and healthy. So cheer up put a notch in your bed post and be happy with the man you're with!!

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I would say that you don't need to tell him. I was in a similar situation (although we didn't actually have sex) and I chose not to tell him because nothing good would come from it. I regretted it with every part of me and knew that it would never happen again. You guys weren't official so I see it as causing unnecessary heartbreak on both sides. Assuming you can let it go (that was the biggest battle for me was feeling the guilt and wanting to tell him- eventually it was so far in the back of my head that I've maybe thought about it twice since).

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It's your business. Don't feel obligated to share.

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Are you prepared that he will want to break up with you? Are you just trying to ease your guilty conscious or do you want to tell him to help your relationship ?

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If it's to take the pressure off you then don't do it. If it's going to somehow help him then do it. It's been however long now you haven't told him. You should have told him about both the first time. Now he would just feel like you were being dishonest.

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Honesty is the best policy. You can't have a healthy relationship if you guys aren't 100% honest with each other.

Should I say something???

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