Should I assume...

I’m completely devastated at my relationship. I have tried and tried and I’m at a point where I just can’t believe this.

My bf of 4 years has bad bad anger issues. I’ve adjusted to it. He asks me for space. The space started at couple of hours. Within the years, the space went up to 1 day of no contacting me.

He hates arguing and he has told me that I should respect his space so he can cool off. Me, on the other hand, I go crazy.

Well back in thanksgiving, we couldn’t celebrate it together because he got Covid. He was so upset. He told me to give him space. Well he didn’t contact me for 2 days.

December, it was birthday. All his birthday plans were cancelled. One thing led to another, and I told him i hated arguing. Didn’t contact me for 3 days.

I told him I hated that and that I assumed he was done. He told me he never was done. He told me that he just needs to cool off.

Well, now, it got worse. He needs new tires. Total cost would be 800 bucks at Costco. Well he told me he’s broke. just last week he told me had 2k saved up in his bank account. Like wtf?? So I asked him if he needed help. I told him “babe I can help you with half the money but you just told me last weekend that you had enough money saved up”

He completely blew up! He told me the worst! He told me he had bills to pay, etc. But.....he doesn’t pay rent. He told me “is my money your problem?”

Well there he goes a day ignoring me. Day 2 ignoring me. Day 3 I sent him a text “lol wow you have time to go out with your friends but you can shoot me a text? Is everything ok?” I saw he was with his friends. He ignored me. Now it’s day 4......I’m crying so bad. Over one comment I made about lending him money