What would you say? I don't know what to do.

My husband and I have been struggling with infertility for almost 5 years now and I had a miscarriage a few years ago. The only people who know is the woman I babysit for and a couple of my husband's coworkers.

For the longest time, I didn't want anyone to know. At this point though, I don't really care. I kind of want everyone to know so they will get off our backs about having kids. I figured I would just tell people whenever the topic came up. I want everyone to know, but I don't want to go through telling everyone. Does that make sense?

What's really bringing this on right now is the comments my sister made at Easter. Over the last few months or so, I have seen my sister share a couple posts on Facebook about why you shouldn't ask people about when they are having kids. Basically those infertility awareness posts. I'm not sure the reason behind her sharing these posts, as she is no where near having kids or trying for kids (she's older than me, but doesn't really have her life together, shitty boyfriend, etc.). So anyways. Regardless of her reason for sharing those posts, I felt some relief in seeing those. I hoped the rest of our family saw those posts and would think twice before asking my husband and I.

Well, at Easter, my sister made multiple comments about how we need to start popping out babies. We need to have a baby so she can get her baby fix. Etc. I was so annoyed with this. Usually when people say things like this, I just brush it off because they don't know what we are going through and most people aren't really aware of infertility. BUT SHE SHARED THOSE POSTS!!! She is aware! I really wanted to say something, but I didn't know what.

So the whole point of this long post...lol.

How would you go about telling people? What would you say? Would you wait for the topic to come up naturally?

I'm not super close with my family. We get together for holidays and other occasions and talk sometimes, but we aren't the type of family who tells each other everything, especially if it's something we are struggling with. My husband on the other hand, is really close with his family. He doesn't really care either way, he's kind of letting me take the lead on this. He did say the other day that he wants his mom to know, but at the same time, he doesn't. He knows if he tells her, it's just going to crush her. She's going to give him that look she has given him so many times before. The look of "you are in pain/dealing with something that I have no control over. I want to help you, but I can't. Now she's in pain. Pitty" kind of look.